Tender Mercies

I'm grateful for some tender mercies this past week.  With Neil being a tax accountant, most of our income happens by May and almost none of it happens in Nov/Dec.  Adding to that the (necessary) purchase of a ground floor office this year, and I was getting worried about this Christmas.  We are switching to the 4 gift system this year, which will definitely help with our budget.  The 4 gift system is: something you want, something you need, something to wear, and something to read.  It seems like I've given my kids too many toys and not spent enough time really thinking about what will be useful or helpful to them.  It's already been amazing this year, really thinking about what gifts to give them in each category.  Ruth for sure will need a new winter coat, so I went to check the thrift store to see what I could find.  She's small enough that I can still get clothes in really good condition from thrift stores.  I found a really cute everyday coat as well as a good winter coat.  On top of that, I found a "construction fort kit" by Discovery Kids for $4 (new is $35) and a Minnie Mouse doll with clip-on clothes/shoes/hats.  It is quite literally the PERFECT gift for Ruth.

I had been stressing about having enough money for the extended family on my list, plus my kids, without having to sacrifice Neil's gifts too.  Gifts is one of his love languages and while we both agree that we'd rather make sure the kids are covered, I didn't want him to end up with nothing.  2 weeks ago, it really did look like he wasn't going to get anything for Christmas, and since his birthday comes in January and tax season doesn't really start until February, I was really upset at the thought that he wouldn't get either gift this year.  I'm a crier, big time.  So I'm crying and I say something like "What if you don't get any gifts for Christmas and I still can't get you anything for your birthday?" right when Ben comes in the room.  He immediately left - to get his wallet, so he could give me all his money so we could get Dad a birthday present.  It was the sweetest thing :)

Early last week, I remembered I had a love seat, a heavy-duty shelving unit, and a foosball table that don't get used anymore that I'd been intending to sell on KSL.  I posted them, and they all sold within 24 hours, which gave us some extra funds for Christmas.  Between that and finding some really great things from the thrift store, I think we'll be in GREAT shape come Christmas :)

At Walmart this week, Ruth and I were in the checkout line and one of those really awesome guys came up behind us in line.  He had a nice round belly and a white beard.  He saw Ruth and said "Oh ho ho ho!  Have you been a good girl?"  I don't think she was totally sure what was going on, but then I told her it was Santa.  The rest of the time in line, she kept saying "Santa, what you doing here?" or "Santa look at Ruthie!"  It was really cute.

Today marks the beginning of tithing settlement, which is usually the day that we try to get in and get it done :)  It also means it's the day of the year that I actually WRITE my tithing check.  It was kind of funny last year, we paid just before going in to sit with the bishop.  He asked if we were full tithe payers, and we said yes.  And he stared, kinda confused, and the tithing statement that he had (which wasn't updated) showing $0 paid.  We set aside our tithing with each and every paycheck that we get, and I have never touched that money during the year, but I choose to pay it annually rather than monthly.

Reading and Fun

One thing that all my children enjoy doing (although at varying degrees of interest) is reading.  Ben is my biggest reader, and constantly causes his glasses to loosen because he falls asleep with a book on his chest and his glasses on.  I caught this cute picture last week when Ruth asked to read a book and Tristan was happy to help :)

For dinner one night, I did roast and potatoes.  My roast comes from bottled roast, and it's super tender and falls apart into little pieces of deliciousness.  I love it :)  Ruth wasn't so excited about it though...  she showed me her fork which had a "snake" on it (or a strand of meat, as you can see below).  I picked it off and ate it, and she said "thanks for eating the snake mom."  She wouldn't eat any more of the roast/potatoes.

On Friday:
Tristan (working on homework, picks up school folder): WHAT?  Who poked holes in this?
Mom: I don't know... you?  Someone at school?
Tristan:  And who poked holes in this paper?  And there's a hole in the couch too.
Mom:  UGH!  Ruth....
Tristan: Well can we go to the school tomorrow and get a new folder?
Mom: No, no one will be there.
Tristan:  (blank face) You mean Mrs. Vander doesn't live there??
Mom:  Uh... no.
Tristan: Well then can you text her and ask her to meet us there so I can get a new folder?
Mom:  No!  (explains how it's like dad going to work at the office - she will be at home on Saturday and won't want to come in - besides I don't even have her number)

Ben has a BIG crush on the cutest little girl at school.  She's in his class but she is a full head shorter than he is.  Some things he's said:

"I don't want to take a sandwich for my lunch because Eve is allergic to peanuts."
"I told Eve a joke and she laughed and I like that."
"When I saw Eve today she smiled and HUGGED ME."
"Can I take 2 treats because I want to share with Eve."
"The shorter the girls are the more I like them."

And last, here a couple pictures from our family session with my aunt.

Happy Halloween!

Every year around Halloween time, my aunt Angie sets up a Halloween scene in her studio and offers free portraits to anyone who wants to come!  We love taking advantage of this :)

We were planning on doing the pictures on Wednesday at 4:00 and then heading to the Traverse Mountain outlets (at the point of the mountain) for stories, a craft, and trick or treating around the stores there.  That meant on Tuesday I was frantically trying to get Neil's costume in a good place.  I should have ordered a good beard for him off of Amazon weeks ago, but I kept thinking I didn't want to pay $10-15 for one small part of his costume if I could make one out of yarn.  At some point, I had to admit that I also just don't have time to make EVERYTHING.  I mean, I made wands for the boys, and Gryffindor patches for their robes, and an owl eyes headband for Ruth...  something had to go.  So I went to Zurchers, which had a decent beard for $10, but it ended up being the same color as Neil's robes and it was just... bleh.  So I returned that beard and went to Halloween City.  I had looked up their beards online and they had a good long white one.  Sadly, the store didn't have that beard, nor any white beard.  They recommended I get a different beard and some of the white hairspray.  You can see in the pictures how well that ended up working.  

I already had the fabric for my robe, and the felt for Ruth's owl feathers.  The boys robes are made of DI men's shirts and Neil's costume was made from $1/yard clearance fabric from Walmart.  I think I probably spent $25 on our costumes.  I feel very blessed that I have the ability to make my own costumes every year and save so much money!

Halloween day, we stopped by Cabelas for a little bit more trick or treats - they had about 8 stations set up through the store.  I probably wouldn't care to go, but since they also have a big fish tank and other (stuffed) animals in the store, it's a more interesting place to go.  Last year, they hid small pumpkins around the store that could win you big prizes.  We didn't find any, and they didn't do it this year.  Oh well.  

Ruth was really getting the hang of the trick or treating deal.  She wasn't even upset that we weren't eating the candy yet.  The only problem we had was that some houses have dogs.  She's not scared of the dogs, she just wants to go into people's houses and pet the dogs.  And not everyone's dogs are the "petting" kind...  so we started having meltdowns when we tried to get her to leave the house.  Eventually, Neil took her back home and I kept going with the boys until they started complaining about wanting a drink and being tired of walking.  They got quite a haul though.  2 houses in my mom's neighborhood were giving out full sized candy bars, and most people in my ward give 3-4 of the small candies.  

Tristan came down with a stomach bug yesterday, and I'm just grateful it happened the day AFTER Halloween so he didn't have to skip trick or treating.